“Some people confuse acceptance with apathy, but there's all the difference in the world. Apathy fails to distinguish between what can and what cannot be helped; acceptance makes that distinction. Apathy paralyzes the will-to-action; acceptance frees it by relieving it of impossible burdens.” Arthur Gordon
I was told that acceptance was the answer to all my problems. To not accept things as they are means to continually waste energy fighting against what cannot be changed. And only through accepting things as they are can we objectively make decisions about what can be changed and what cannot. And what we can do to help ourselves make it through difficult times. This theme keeps reoccurring in my life.
In my youth I took the est training, "the technology of transformation," to transform my life. (Note: Est has now transformed to The Forum.) One of basic premises of est was to tell the truth about something and it would cease to have a hold on you. Getting to the truth of a matter can be as difficult as acceptance. And at times both concepts seem as magical as circling a tree counter clockwise three time in the light of the full moon. But then I believe in magic.
Yesterday I made a list of the trials and tribulations of my life of late. Lists, to my way of thinking, are telling the truth (not that you cannot lie in them), and a path to acceptance. And in the way of magic a means to have the items on the list vanish. Well, maybe not go poof, but get better. Take vehicles. I talked to the mechanic. Mine will be ready to pick up today. It has taken so long not because of increased problems with the van but with other cars that had to be handled before he got mine back together. And my sister's Jeep is doing well.
On the Housing Authority issue I received a check yesterday. Okay 18 days late but it arrived. And a form to have subsequent checks directly deposited.
Dying friends are still dying. And I still am grieving their loss as active participants in my life. But today that grief seems acceptable; a natural process, like death, we must all go through, and not so totally paralyzing. I was able to look rationally yesterday at living and all that includes (the infamous to do list) and communicating with friends. And this morning my cell phone actually has bars and not that "emergency only" message of the last couple weeks.
What little magic tricks work in your life?